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Kendra <kendr...@my-deja.com>

In article <7ZjS4.550$8e.52...@nnrp3.clara.net>,
  "Deborah" <spam...@bigfoot.com> wrote:

> Kendra <kendr...@my-deja.com> wrote in message
> news:8fcf3a$r89$1@nnrp1.deja.com...
> :
> : Really?  Would that be the same ones who said, "It's unfortunate you
> : were unable to breastfeed but that still doesn't make formula the
best
> : thing for your baby." ?!?!?!?
> :
> : Thats far from acknowledgement.  That's insensitivity.

> You are, I believe, referring to one of my posts. However, despite
your use
> of quotation marks, this is not what I wrote.

> What I actually wrote was:

> "If you were unable to lactate, that is unfortunate, but it does not
mean
> that formula is a better product for it."

> First, you are using the statement out of context, as it was a
response to a
> specific statement. Second, I did not say anything about how
appropriate the
> use of formula was for any specific baby. I wrote about formula in
general.
> This is not the same thing at all, which some here seem to have
difficulty
> in understanding the difference between discussing a product in
general, &
> their own situations in particular.

> Formula is not made a better product through being essential in a few
> circumstances. It may have been essential in those circumstances, but
its
> merits as a product are exactly the same regardless.

> If you are going to quote me (or anyone else) in future, I would
appreciate
> your quoting accurately.

> Deborah

I would appreciate a little more sensitivity from people like you but I
doubt it's likely to happen.

What difference does the wording make?  You are still saying the same
thing and if you think I'm going to dig up the exact quote, when my
paraphrase was close enough, you're nuts.

You still told a woman who could not nurse that the formula she gave
her child - OUT OF NECESSITY - was inferior.  It was a superior, better-
than-thou attitude that she didn't deserve.  Breastfeeding SHOULD BE
the immediate first choice.  No woman should just decide against it for
the simple reason she doesn't like it.  But formula has saved lives for
women like her and myself when the breastmilk didn't come in.  For me,
formula was the ONLY thing I had available.  In my case it wasn't the
inferior product.

Or are you like the person who once told me I should have let my child
die rather than feed him formula?

A little sensitivity goes a long way and it's not a difficult thing to
show.

Kendra

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