Message from discussion Breast is best, was Re: Internet survey - should mothers breastfeed in public?

From: Naomi Lynne Pardue <npar...@steel.ucs.indiana.edu>
Subject: Re: Breast is best, was Re: Internet survey - should mothers breastfeed  in public?
Date: 2000/05/22
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In misc.kids.breastfeeding toto <tot...@my-deja.com> wrote:
> On Thu, 18 May 2000 21:32:05 -0500, "chenier danielle"
> <dchen...@cyberus.ca> wrote:

> <snip>
>>
>>I think the real problem is that some people are so afraid of failure, they
>>don't even try!!!
>>
> And it isn't your business to guilt trip or force any woman who is
> afraid and who doesn't wish to try into it.  Provide as much
> education and information as you possibly can.


But when we DO provide information, we are told that THAT is making women
feeling guilty, and that we are calling ff mothers bad mothers.
If we say "breastmilk is healther" we get 20 anecdotes about how HER
formula fed baby was never a sick a day in his life. When we say that the
great majority of women CAN breastfeed, we get 20 anecdotes about how HER
milk never came in... When we say that it is important to breastfeed if
you can (Not 'we will force you to breastfeed against your will') we are
accused of calling ff mothers bad mothers.

  Saying
ANYTHING short of "it doesn't matter how you feed your babies, because
formula is just as good as breastmilk and all the studies that say
otherwise are lies" inevitably leads to cries of "How DARE you say I'm a
bad mother for giving my baby formula!" 

  Help doctors
> and others to be come breast-feeding friendly, then get out of the
> faces of those women who make a decision you dislike for whatever
> reason.  IT IS THEIR CHOICE.

I don't think anyone here says that they go up to ff mothers and criticize
them for their choices.


Naomi