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: In article <7ZjS4.550$8e.52...@nnrp3.clara.net>,
:   "Deborah" <spam...@bigfoot.com> wrote:
: > Kendra <kendr...@my-deja.com> wrote in message
: > news:8fcf3a$r89$1@nnrp1.deja.com...
: > :
: > : Really?  Would that be the same ones who said, "It's unfortunate you
: > : were unable to breastfeed but that still doesn't make formula the
: best
: > : thing for your baby." ?!?!?!?
: > :
: > : Thats far from acknowledgement.  That's insensitivity.
: >
: > You are, I believe, referring to one of my posts. However, despite
: your use
: > of quotation marks, this is not what I wrote.
: >
: > What I actually wrote was:
: >
: > "If you were unable to lactate, that is unfortunate, but it does not
: mean
: > that formula is a better product for it."
: >
: > First, you are using the statement out of context, as it was a
: response to a
: > specific statement. Second, I did not say anything about how
: appropriate the
: > use of formula was for any specific baby. I wrote about formula in
: general.
: > This is not the same thing at all, which some here seem to have
: difficulty
: > in understanding the difference between discussing a product in
: general, &
: > their own situations in particular.
: >
: > Formula is not made a better product through being essential in a few
: > circumstances. It may have been essential in those circumstances, but
: its
: > merits as a product are exactly the same regardless.
: >
: > If you are going to quote me (or anyone else) in future, I would
: appreciate
: > your quoting accurately.
: >
: > Deborah
: >
: >
:
: I would appreciate a little more sensitivity from people like you but I
: doubt it's likely to happen.
:
: What difference does the wording make?  You are still saying the same
: thing and if you think I'm going to dig up the exact quote, when my
: paraphrase was close enough, you're nuts.

If you are going to quote, then quote. Use quotation marks & the exact words
of the person you are quoting.
If you are going to paraphrase, then paraphrase. In this case, quotation
marks should not be used.

:
: You still told a woman who could not nurse that the formula she gave
: her child - OUT OF NECESSITY - was inferior.  It was a superior, better-
: than-thou attitude that she didn't deserve.  Breastfeeding SHOULD BE
: the immediate first choice.  No woman should just decide against it for
: the simple reason she doesn't like it.  But formula has saved lives for
: women like her and myself when the breastmilk didn't come in.  For me,
: formula was the ONLY thing I had available.  In my case it wasn't the
: inferior product.

At no point did I tell this woman that formula was not the best thing for
*her* baby. I simply pointed out that being occasionally essential does not
make a product better.

Analogy: if you live in an area experiencing famine, & the only thing
available for you to eat is, say, rice, then you eat rice. It is better than
nothing. The fact that nothing else is available does not change the fact
that a rice-only diet is inferior to a varied diet.

:
: Or are you like the person who once told me I should have let my child
: die rather than feed him formula?

If you care to look back at my posts, it should be clear to you that I am
not like the person you mention. I do not have a problem with mothers using
formula. I have a problem with a very wealthy industry which makes its money
by convincing mothers & fathers (& doctors) of this fallacy: formula is
every bit as good as breastmilk. If a particular mother wishes to take my
criticism of the formula industry & personalize it as if it applied to her
specifically, I can't stop her. But nowhere, nowhere, have I criticized a
mother for using formula.

Deborah