Message from discussion Telling Someone About AvPD

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From: "John Sheppard" <nos...@nospam.com>
Newsgroups: alt.support.social-phobia
Subject: Re: Telling Someone About AvPD
Date: Thu, 22 Mar 2007 17:21:09 +1000
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"Skog" <thes...@juno.com> wrote in message 
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> http://groups.google.com/group/alt.support.social-phobia/browse_frm/thread/b5f39e7ffd96dfe0/?hl=en#
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> It's been over 9 months now since I told 2 people about AVPD. I have
> to
> come to grips now with the reality that they are not going to help me.
> I didn't get the kind of empathetic reaction I hoped for at the
> outset and even when I try to point out how they respond to me in a
> way that makes me feel rejected, they don't seem to get it. Both of
> them want to just have casual conversations from time-to-time and are
> willing to ignore me for days when I withdraw, despite now knowing
> something about what that means. They don't dislike me; they just
> aren't going to help me. I wasn't interested in help from anyone
> else, so this is very discouraging.
>

My opinion be that you can only help yourself. If you have someone already 
close to you, they can support you, but even then you can only help 
yourself.

If someone told you they had anger management problems would you be able to 
help them? I somewhat doubt it, only they can help themselves. What would 
you do? You could possibly support them and encourage them, but thats about 
the most you can do, and even thats asking alot.

John